Why would you consider monitoring your offspring’s mobile phone? The real reason most parents do this is to provide extra protection for their loved ones and to have peace of mind. How can you do it without invading their privacy and making them very angry? There are ways to do this and make it work for everyone. Read on…
First you should know that monitoring a cell phone that you own is legal. If you do not own it… probably not. If your underage child owns the phone, then that is a grey area.
Monitoring a phone gives the parent access to all kinds of information a teen or child may not want to share with adults, just like any kid keeps all kinds of things in their room and expects it to be private. Good parents generally respect a child’s privacy as long as they have no reason to be worried about safety.
What kind of information would cell phone spying give you? Depending on what you spend you will have access to:
- The content of all texts, even those erased.
- Numbers called and received and the times.
- All information stored on the phone like contacts and erased information.
- Where your child is in real time and where they have been.
- Live and recorded conversations.
- Local conversations occurring when the phone is off.
Wow, few people would want to share that with anyone! However, if you were in danger for any reason, wouldn’t you want someone to have access to this information to help you as quickly as possible? I sure would. If my youngster did not show up when expected after school, and I had checked all the usual places – I would be on this information like a flash. Statistics show that few children survive even hours after an abduction. Time is important, every second counts,and this technology gives you a roaring head start.
If you have teenagers I am sure you can see the benefit of having this installed in their cell phones. Generally teens are wanting more freedom and it will be easier to give it, knowing that you have a backup plan if rules aren’t followed.
I am not advocating installing this software without the knowledge of the person owning the phone. No way, I am not a sneak, and I would never want to model that kind of behavior to my children. We would have a family meeting and explain why we wanted it on everyone’s phone, including mine and my wife’s, and exactly how and when it would be used. I would want the family to discuss the guidelines for use, so we all have input and understand the circumstances that would require checking anyone’s phone. Everyone would be shown how to use it and when. The same level of privacy would be expected on the software as we have in our home.
My daughter is in her late 20’s now, but it would certainly have saved me some difficult times during her teens. Oh, I just slept over at Julie’s, I forgot to phone. I was finally able to encourage her to phone me and check in – otherwise all her friend’s parents got calls at 3 am. She understood my worry, but it just wasn’t a priority.
Spy phone software can be presented to your family as a way to work together for a common goal of family safety. Knowing that someone will be checking your cell if the check-in and other guidelines are not being followed will encourage more responsible behavior with no loss of privacy. There will be no reason for anger or upset because each person is involved in setting the guidelines.